P.E.R.T – Primary Emotional Re-identification Therapy

What’s wrong with Will Power?

You might wrongly assume that “Will Power” and “Discipline” is what you need to move your life forwards to where you deep down believe it should be.

But rather than really moving you forwards it pushes you artificially towards, hopes and dreams that you are not entirely comfortable with. And as a result this method of moving forwards is uncomfortable and short lived, because it is built on you fighting yourself.

Ultimately you are just continuing to beat yourself up and tell yourself that you’re “not good enough as you are”. And however externally successful you may have become using Will Power and Discipline – inside you’re crying. Inside unfortunately, you’re probably not as happy as you could be, because you have been fighting yourself, instead of loving and nurturing yourself.

Moving forwards with love

This isn’t just some newagey nonsense, I believe that “Pleasure” and “Identity” are our primary motivators. It’s not enough just to look at your life now and know what you’re not happy about, to realise what you don’t want. Because that will only move you forwards out of a lacking.

So whatever dream you have for your future, make sure it’s something that makes you deeply happy, an idea, vision or feeling of who you’d like to be and the life that you’d like to live, which gives you deep down pleasure, fulfillment and contentment.

Real Change means Changing Who We Are what we get pleasure from!

Our emotional addictions, or “personality” those feeling which give us the most pleasure are deeply associated with our identity.

These could be positive or negative feelings, and it is the intensity of these feelings (or so called lack of feeling) and our identity with them which really matters.

Because life is otherwise boring, peak emotional experiences become very important and significant to us. We hold onto these peak experiences and cherish them, get pleasure from them, whether they are good or bad experiences. We identify with these peak emotional experiences and because no one else is feeling what we are experiencing, we identify with them on a very deep level of our being. We wrongly assume that these unique feelings and experiences define who we are. This is who I am.

And these peak emotional experiences, very strong or overwhelming feelings are also a combination of drugs, hormones and chemicals that we become secretly addicted to. We then create and reinforce the neurological patterns, thoughts, that trigger the flood of these drugs as often as we feel we need to.

It is our primary emotional identity PEI which shapes our view of ourselves and the world. So in order to truly transform our lives we’ll be sensible to discover what our PEI is and where it originated from? Once you’ve found out what you PEI is you can learn to change it.

Of course I am also interested in thoughts and our internal dialogue, however, positive thinking is not enough to truly change our lives and who we are. That’s why our emotional selves our PEI is so important in this transformation. To Reindentify with happier, more life affirming emotional identies, takes serious emotional effort, intelligence & maturity.

It also takes a little bit of craziness or “insanity” and a willingness to jump outside of ourselves. To break the chains of personaliy addiction, to admit we are addicts to our fundametal feelings and begin the process of emotional reidentification.

Changing ourselves on such a primary level means that the person we thought and felt we were has to die. We have to let go of all the pain and suffering in our lives, to embrace it learn from it and let it go. To realize that we are not our suffering. We are not the lessons the Univeristy of Hard Knocks/ aka University of Life, has taught us.

Who we are is that person we were before school, before our parents, teachers and peers knocked the joy of life out of us. And who we dream we can be, given the love and support we desire to fulfill our potential, and live happily ever after.

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